I hate when I'm out and men ask for my number but never call me.
I've been told that the answer to this one simply is to boost their ego.I'd like to hear other opinions on this.This has happened to me alot in the past year n it's really annoying!!!
There is no self pity on this end,just curious to know why it happens to us good women!!
ReplyDeletei have no answer!........but just speaking from personal experience, losing the number happens more often that I like to admit..........also maybe he doesn't know if he should call, do you want him to call..........we cannot read minds, just tell us so we don't have to wonder or guess (assuming you didn't), there are any number of possibilities that could have happenend.
ReplyDeleteI've never got a girl's number before, so I cant answer for sure. but I can "guess", and I'd say dont always expect the worse. maybe they forgot.
ReplyDeleteI think CCECCE has some points. Sometimes the number gets lost, and sometimes you really aren't too sure about calling. You would think that if you get a phone number she wants you to call, but I've found that it is not always the case.
ReplyDeleteI rarely ask for phone numbers; if somebody gives me one fine.
I gave him my number twice!He claims he lost it the first time n than he wrote it on his insurance card!That was 2 months ago!NO-I do not want him to call now,cause obviously he was just playing with me n I'm too old for kid's games.U either want to date me or not,but don't play games!I think he didn't call because-#1-He's a coward or#2-He was afraid of my 20 yr.old son who has since moved out.Maybe I'm too old for him.Oh well life goes on.No big loss!!!.
ReplyDeletejust one guy? forget about him. anyone who loses your number twise is either a liar, or very unorginized, and neither is really very good
ReplyDeleteAn addition to the question is, Why does someone give out their phone number and then never take your call?
ReplyDeleteI don't believe in headgames n if I really don't want someone to call me-I give them Jenny's number(867-5309)Get it!! But I haven't had the opportunity to do that in years.Those were my bar-hopping days!!
ReplyDeleteI think some of them do it to flatter you. They may not be interested but don't want to hurt your feelings. So they ask for your number and don't call.
ReplyDeleteOr they may have met someone else or are getting a bunch of numbers.
There's two reasons I don't call:
ReplyDelete1) Sometimes sober second thought comes into play. I'm usually asking a girl for her number at the bar... so I'm usually not all there, and in the morning I may realise it hadn't been the greatest idea. This is maybe 5% of the cases.
2) The other 95% of the time? I do call, usually end up leaving a voicemail, and then nothing... so why don't the ladies ever call ME back?
I used to call a couple days after meeting a girl and getting her number. Now I make sure she has mine as well as me having hers, just in case she doesn't leave it on the voicemail. I won't call until they call me first.
when i was younger
ReplyDeletei had a compitition to see who could get more with my freinds
and even when i stoped doing that
somtimes i got the number then didnt have the balls to call
If the guy is asking for it and then doesn't call, he's basically chickened out.
ReplyDeleteI asked for the numbers and when I got home I'm blown away that I got it but
feel nervous to call and then one day leads to another and another then the
moment is lost.
I can't speak from experience either (as i am way to shy, and not sure how to talk to a girl), but i had a friend tell me why he gets digits and never uses them and his answer was, i was drunk, and cant remember if shes good looking or not,,, either that or he already has a girlfriend and is picking up numbers as a contingency plan, dont know if thats a good enough answer but there it is,,,
ReplyDeleteAn addition to the question is, Why does someone give out their phone number and then never take your call?
ReplyDeleteOne of the guys I met on another site...this always happened with him! He would respond to my text messages and stuff but almost never answered his phone! He called me a total of 10 times in 5 months. Are most guys just not phone people?
ReplyDeletealso maybe he doesn't know if he should call, do you want him to call..........we cannot read minds, just tell us so we don't have to wonder or guess
We gave you our number! We want you to call! If we didn't want you to call, we would not have given you our number!
not neccessarily, you would be surpised by woman who give their numbers and are then surprised or seem disinterested when u do call..............maybe when we meet women, we should set up a specific time when calling is best, a set time (lol).......
ReplyDeleteHey good thread Yup, guys offer me their numbers...say "Call me and we'll do something" . THEY offer, I don't ask. Then I do call....they act disinterested...the "Oh I'm so busy" comes out or I leave a message and they don't call back. Happens ALL THE TIME! Now I just throw the number away...and I stopped giving my number out.
ReplyDeleteIf guys get my number and don't call and "chicken" out then it's time to grow up and get some kahonas. Sheesh...it's just a phone call...not a wedding date! Then it's complaint time about being single and lonely and wanting a girlfriend.
If a guy gives me his number AND I accept it...then I WILL and DO call!! If I'm not interested I just say so.
So nice to see I'm not the only one! WHEW!!!
Are most guys just not phone people?
ReplyDeleteI for one loathe the phone.
At least, for mindless chatter. I'm too "business" and to the point to deal with it. Greetings, discuss plans, end call. That's all I want. Maybe some minor pleasantries in there.
Chatting on the phone bores the hell out of me, and there are so many better things I could be doing.
But, of course I'll do it. Because I'd rather not be single. And I'd always answer it...that's just rude.
not neccessarily, you would be surpised by woman who give their numbers and are then surprised or seem disinterested when u do call..............maybe when we meet women, we should set up a specific time when calling is best, a set time (lol).......
This is true as well. Women play the ego boosting/validation game too.
ever read the book, he's just not that into you?????
ReplyDeletehavent read none of the above, just the first Question, but personaly its just to know you can get it if you want it
ReplyDeleteIf a guy asks you for your "digits", what makes you think that you are the only woman that he asks? Perhaps he found a woman later that night that he is more attracted to and asked for her digits. Don't worry, he will probably keep yours as a backup.
ReplyDeleteFrom another woman's point of view, and to all the ladies reading this, a word of advice:
ReplyDeleteIf you don't want the guy to call you, give him the wrong number!! (But make sure to tell him at least twice that you DO want to hear from him.)
If you DO want the guy to call, give him the right number, and mention an innocent "date", like coffee or ice cream or something. Make him feel comfortable with you, even if it's at a bar noise and stuff. Touch his arm, etc.
Maybe he had a better offer .. maybe he reevaluated his interest in you ... maybe he is worried that you might shut him down .. or maybe he was playing the numbers game
ReplyDeleteI always call at the wrong time, lol. Is fate really mean to me now?
ReplyDeleteI would think that a man would ask for a phone number and not call as a way to end what he may perceive as a clingy situation. I would think that is a good way to extricate yourself from a conversation... especially if other attempts have failed.
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